Make pleasure your business!

Consider creating a small business in your mind where you are paid in pleasure. This small business is your body and brain.  The work you do is centered around getting “paid” in pleasurable experiences.  What is the work you ask?

 Noticing small joy.  Becoming aware of sensations in your body.  Setting and then keeping boundaries around your work and life. Advocating for your needs, and then advocating again because people forget.  Creating plans with friends who make you laugh.   The work isn’t particularly fun, but the paycheck is fantastic.

 We often think pleasure (and sex) should just be easy because it feels good, but I can tell you this idea alone ruins more sex lives than almost any other.  Do yourself a favor and consider yourself to be in the business of pleasure.  Pleasure is the paycheck you receive for doing the uncomfortable, boring and sometimes downright difficult.  But you’ve got this.


Want more help creating, protecting and experiencing your pleasure?  I’ve got the perfect solution.  Consider joining me for a three day retreat where we will do just that and so much more. 

In three days of elevated personal support, you will:

 Discover what brings you pleasure.  

(PLEASURE)

  1. Define and deconstruct current experiences of pleasure.

  2. Let go of definitions of pleasure no longer serving you.

  3. Allow the tolerance of contentment and pleasure:
    - Mindset / upper limit
    - Titration

 Harness your power to live the life you desire.  

(POWER)

  1. Establish boundaries which protect your pleasure and inner peace.

  2. Identify your thought-habits and mantras.

  3. Create a framework for real-time pivoting.

  4. Learn the power of repair to build your resilience.

 Refine your ability to recover and regulate in real-time. 

(INNER PEACE)

  1. Identify what recovery, regulation, and rest looks like for you and your body.

  2. Expand your window of tolerance and capacity for life’s challenges.

  3. Manage how urgency and scarcity show up for you.

  4. Slow down the need for fast fixes and create more space for aligned solutions.

SPOTLIGHT:

I just found Asma Abu-Dahab a therapist who is helping me unlearn and become aware of some of my blind spots around traditional therapy.  Recently, I’ve learned how being nice upholds oppression and being kind is how we help liberate others.  Give her a follow and do some unlearning too!

@asma.therapist

Celeste Holbrook