Walking away from explosions
I’ve always loved scenes in movies where people slowly walk away from explosions, like this one from Desperado.
The confidence, the finality. The absoluteness of decimating something big and not looking back. The visual representation of what happened to the person who “fucked around and found out.”
So relentless, so satisfying. I. Love. It.
It is fun to daydream of burning and leaving shit behind like this. I often imagine doing this to purity culture. Or to my anxiety, the haters or stringy onions.
But there is a catch. Life rarely affords us the opportunity to burn and walk. Life usually wants us to slowly dismantle. For example, walking away from purity culture is not just lighting one match on a pile of gasoline. It is more like trying to start a fire in the woods with no matches. Just flint and some measly little sticks. Lots of effort and work before you even begin to see smoke. These fires take time and tedious tending.
Here's the good news. The results can end up being the same. You can still burn it down. You can! It might just be way slower than you thought. No big dramatic walk aways, but rather dedicated small steps.
Your liberated sex life is in front of you, the great big fire of purity culture and patriarchy crackling behind you.
You can do this. Let's start looking for some flint.
With Love,
Celeste
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