Desire or arousal?
What's the difference?
What is the difference between desire for sex and arousal for sex? We often use these two words interchangeably, but they typically describe two separate experiences. Desire is, "I want to WANT to have sex." Arousal is, "My brain and often my body are ready for sex."
Do you see a difference there? Many of my clients come to the practice thinking that they have a desire issue, when in reality they have lots of desire for sex, but arousal doesn't easily show up. I often tell people, "I don't think you would be here in this consulting session if you didn't desire to have sex. Your desire is there. It is the arousal that you find elusive."
This week, consider the difference between arousal and desire. It may feel helpful for you to know that desire is actually present, because then you can start focusing on the barriers to arousal, the real culprit to your sexual dissatisfaction.
Rooting for you,
Celeste
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June 22 @ 1 PM EST
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We have been socialized to think that penetration is king when it comes to sex. But many folks, especially vulva owners, don't find penetration as pleasurable as other sexual activities. Join me to learn about all the things you may be missing out on. I promise there is a whole exciting world of non-penetrative play that can add layers of joy to your sex life.
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