What if purity culture taught bike riding?
Can you imagine if we treated literally any other behavior like purity culture treats sex?
Yes, you can learn how to ride a bike, but only when you are 18 and have signed a lease on an apartment. And then it will be great! Your bike rides will be amazing! Especially the first ride...it will be epic. So be sure you don't try to ride any bikes before you sign the lease to an apartment. Even touching the handlebars or looking at how to ride bikes on You Tube is going to ensure you will have an awful experience with bike riding the rest of your life. I mean, I remember Petunia...she waited to even look at any bikes before her contract was signed and guess what? On her first bike ride, she won the Tour de France! What a blessing.
What the what? It makes no sense in any other area of our life to withhold information in order for the skillset to be learned well.
I know many of you are here because purity culture has affected the way you feel about sex, and I want to give you some encouragement. Just because you weren't given comprehensive, pleasure-focused sex ed growing up, doesn't mean you can't have a great sex life now. It just means we have to acknowledge the traumatic neglect of knowledge in the past. Give that earlier version of you some compassion and tell the that they did what they thought was best at the time, because they weren't given many other options.
Sending you love as we continue to learn about sex.
Celeste
SPOTLIGHT
Sad Girls Club was started by Elyse Fox after she released a documentary featuring her life with depression. Subsequently, many women started to reach out to her for help, so she created a community where girls who battle mental illness can be together and be seen.
“I am still on the journey to becoming a fully mature sexual being but I feel much better equipped to process my emotions about the incredibly powerful thing that is sex.”