A perspective lesson at the liquor store
I have taken my kids to the liquor store exactly one time. I had to get margarita mix for a party. It was a last minute errand and I took them in quickly, got the mix and left. The whole process took approximately seven minutes. MONTHS later in the Christmas season, my daughter’s teacher asked her where I like to do my Christmas shopping.
And do you know what my kid said?
Goody Goody Liquor.
My daughter told her teacher my favorite place to shop was the liquor store.
(An aside: I was already on thin ice with the 1st grade teacher after career day, when the kids described their parents' jobs. I will put on record right now that I was the inspiration for seven year old Cassandra telling her parents she wants to become a sexologist when she grows up.)
Point is, kids see the world from a different perspective. Apparently, when we were inside the store, Ella had asked me if “Goody Goody” was really in the name of the store. I had flippantly responded, in a hurry to try and get my young children out of the liquor store. "Yes, Goody Goody's the name of the store. Isn't that fun? Okay, let's go check out."
Somehow in her mind, the comment about the fun name meant to her that it was my absolute favorite store. That was her perspective on those few short sentences. And since she never asked me directly where I actually liked to shop, this was her conclusion.
In our intimate relationships, clarification is so important. Just because your partner loved 50 Shades of Grey doesn't mean she's into being flogged. Just because your husband once mentioned the Reverse Cowgirl doesn't mean that's his favorite position. But since we aren't taught to communicate effectively about sex, sometimes assumptions turn into belief...and confusion follows.
My ask this week is that you talk more about sex with your partner. Ask questions about things you think you know. Ask him where he loves to be touched. Ask her how she loves to be kissed. And then really listen. Clarifying communication can prevent a perception that isn't accurate...and might even be (ahem) embarrassing.
If you need me, I'll be shopping at my favorite store this weekend.
Sending you laughter and love.
Remember, pleasure heals, so seek it out.
Love,
Celeste
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Here is a local friend for our community spotlight! Rosako is a friend of mine here in the Dallas Fort Worth metroplex that has a wonderful soul food restaurant. Every month, he closes down to feed the homeless veterans in his area. He has been nominated for a local hero award, and I'd love for you to help us out by voting for him and his generous heart.