Bookmark these s3x resources
One of the questions I get most often is:
“Do you have a good resource recommendation for____?”
So of course today I’m sharing a short, curated list of resources I regularly recommend; books and tools that are thoughtful, accessible and research based. Whether you’re parenting, partnered, dating, healing, or just curious, there’s something here for you. Take what you need from my very messy desk!
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Sex Education for Kids & Teens (Any Age, Any Stage)
If you want help navigating conversations about bodies, boundaries, puberty, porn, pleasure, consent, and all the things without shame or fear:
Sex Positive Families
www.sexpositivefamilies.com
This is one of my favorite evidence-based, diverse resources for caregivers. It’s practical, age-appropriate and inclusive.
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Understanding Non-Monogamy & Attachment
If you’re curious about consensual non-monogamy or already practicing and want to do it better:
Polysecure by Jessica Fern
This book beautifully bridges attachment theory and non-monogamy, helping people understand jealousy, safety, boundaries, and emotional regulation without moralizing.
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Understanding Men, Masculinity & Love
If you want deeper insight into men’s emotional worlds—and how patriarchy harms everyone:
The Will to Change by bell hooks
A compassionate, incisive look at how boys and men are socialized away from emotional intimacy and what healing can look like instead. We are reading this in Pleasure Club in March.
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Dating, Modern Love & Making Better Choices
If dating feels confusing, discouraging, or like a full-time job you didn’t apply for:
Ask a Matchmaker by Maria Avgitidis
Written by a professional matchmaker, this book is practical, grounded, and refreshingly honest about dating patterns, boundaries, and self-respect.
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Menopause
If you’re looking for clear, empowering menopause education that isn’t dismissive or alarmist:
The Menopause Bible by Shahzadi Harper
Dr. Shahzadi Harper offers a comprehensive, compassionate guide to perimenopause and menopause, with a strong emphasis on autonomy, pleasure, and informed choice.
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Healing Sexual Trauma & Reclaiming the Body
If sex feels complicated because of past trauma—religious, relational, or sexual—you’re not broken. These resources center healing, safety, and agency:
- Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Marie Brown – A powerful framework for reconnecting to pleasure as a source of healing and liberation
- Healing Sex by Staci Haines – A gentle, somatic approach to rebuilding safety and choice in sexual experiences
- Trauma-informed sex therapy (look for providers trained in somatic therapy, EMDR, or sex therapy) can be deeply supportive alongside reading
We are talking about sex toys this Month! During both of our meetings this month, I will be giving away toys from my office closet! Many are toys that have been sent to me by companies...some of them are AWESOME. Some of them are not. Which one will you get? Ya gotta get into Pleasure Club by next Tuesday to know!
Three rooms left for our April Retreat and I want one of them to be YOURS. If you are in hot pursuit of balancing peace and pleasure while still developing your power, this retreat is up your alley. Come burn some fucks with us! (It's my favorite activity!)
Celeste Holbrook 3000 S Hulen Street Suite 124-731
Fort Worth, TX 76109, USA