Your Sexual Ethic

My friend, you are worth more than the words and ideas of our forefathers. You are worth more than their one-sided lens of sex. You are worth more than thousands of years of sex information being forced down your brain as truth in the guise of “purity” and “protection.”

This is the old dusty sex ethic, one person powerful and the other person vulnerable. This is no longer an ethic that works for sex. I adore with how Tina Shermer Sellers, Ph.D. describes a sex-positive Gospel ethic.

“A sexual ethic that is marked by mutual power, love and justice, and invites people of faith to experience intimacy not only with a beloved, but with all of creation. It is an ethic that seeks to love ourselves and our beloved with the kind of attention, intention, presence, and fullness of senses that Jesus had for his followers. It serves to strengthen people’s well-being and self-respect. It touches our senses powerfully, enhances our self worth, and increases our desire to connect with more love and grace with others. It moves from an old ethic, which required one person to be powerful and the other to be vulnerable, to an experience where both parties know power and vulnerability. The merging of the male and female energies that is within each person is released into the relationship, satiating the couple and spilling over to bless the community. It is a creation of mystery and interdependence, a thing of mystery that is worth celebrating.”

What a stunning description of sexual ethic. Both parties are vulnerable.

Both parties are powerful.

Let’s step away from the lens and description of “sex” that doesn’t accurately describe our power.