Stop wishing sex was easy
What would happen if you stopped wishing sex to be easy? When I ask people what they want to feel in their sex life, this is what I hear.
“I wish it were easy.”
“I want sex to happen naturally.”
“I want sex to happen spontaneously.”
I get it. You work so hard in other areas of your life like putting food on the table, parenting and caring for your plants…sex should be something that is effortless, right?
Not if you want a great sex life.
Great sex is not easy. It takes intention and effort. It’s a vulnerable negotiation between two fully autonomous individuals with their own unique set of needs. That doesn’t just happen thoughtlessly.
So the one social message that you can work on dropping to help your sex life is that it should be easy. And magically, once you embrace the work, sex becomes more connective, shared and lovely.
And THAT is worth the effort.
Rooting for you, always.
Celeste
SEXUAL CLARITY WORKBOOK
I have created this workbook because I wished I had something this helpful when I was experiencing painful sex as a newlywed. I grappled with pain, shame and low libido far longer than was necessary. I didn't have the tools or resources in my life to help me understand why and how I was struggling. Sixteen years later, I'm honored to create useful, beautiful tools for you to explore your sex life.
SPOTLIGHT
Ashley Cobb is an amazing sex educator out of Atlanta who advocates for HIV positive black women. Her content is helpful, and I hope you give her a follow!