Why sex wanes in long term relationships
Are you in a long-term relationship where you could finish each other’s sentences but figuring out how to improve sex permanently feels impossible? This describes the majority of my clients.
Sex gets more difficult in long term relationships for a few reasons.
Novelty fuels arousal, so when the relationship is not new, novelty must be intentional.
Men and women are socialized (in general) differently for sex. Men are socialized to utilize sex to feel better and women are socialized that their worth is in their ability to give sex, making it transactional and without pleasure.
Responsibility is the biggest killer of arousal, and as we live together longer, our responsibilities pile up.
I help couples learn how to negotiate sex that works for both people by taking them through a four-part process of sexual renovation. I typically do this through one-on-one sessions, but twice a year I offer this four-part process in a group setting. If you are ready to finally address the root issues of your sex infrequency, boredom and frustration, now is the time to join the next Long Term Lover’s group. We start next Wednesday! Check out more details below:
Long-Term Lover’s Sex Seminar (November 2023)
This group is for you if:
You are currently or plan to be in a long-term relationship
Your relationship is strong, but you sometimes argue about sex frequency or quality
You want to know how to have great sex for the rest of your life with your partner
You and your partner are willing to work and negotiate for better sex
You are feeling that sex is getting stale and you want to infuse novelty
What's included:
A small, intimate place to learn, capped at 10 (10 individuals or 10 couples)
(2) 120-minute live video sessions with Celeste and the group
Specific sex and communication homework to do after each seminar
Replays of the live seminars sent within 24 hours following the live event
One 30-minute personal phone session with Celeste after the seminar for questions and individualized help.
The ability to attend and ask questions anonymously
Access to Outercourse Webinar Replay
Access to 10 New Things to Try in Bed Webinar Replay
Long-Term Lovers Guide
The Long-Term Lovers Guide includes:
Sexual Awareness Worksheet to fully understand each other's sexual needs and desires
The Erotic Sandbox activity to discover novel sexual experience you would both like to try
The Lusty Playlist activity to help arousal become longer and more enjoyable
The Sexual Deconstruction activity to fully understand how the messages you received growing up about sex impact your ability to show up authentically in sex as an adult
The Context and Environment worksheet which helps you gain awareness about how the responsibilities and your environment impact your ability to get aroused.
Dates and Times:
Video Session 1: Wednesday, November 15, 2023 from 8:00 – 10:00pm CST
Video Session 2: Wednesday, November 29, 2023 from 8:00 – 10:00pm CST
30 Minute Individual Call with Celeste: Scheduled at your convenience after both seminars
Want FREE sex ed? Don’t forget that the Velvet Box is having the most tremendous giveaway all through the month of November. Go to the Velvet Box course catalog, find some classes for you and your partner and then use GIVING2023 at checkout to get them for FREE! This is an $725 value…you don’t want to miss this one!
Rooting for you.
Celeste
SPOTLIGHT
Go follow the most adorably helpful account that I found this week. Mercury Stardust is the Trans Handy Ma’am who shows us that there are no dumb questions and yes you can fix that.