Why I hate “foreplay”
I hate foreplay. Well, specifically, I hate the word "foreplay." It gives us a notion that the behaviors we engage in before climax are optional, less than or maybe even not part of "sex."
What a load of codswallop!
A better term for the behaviors we do between sex initiation and sex climax is arousal. The stroking, kissing, grinding, touching, licking and hugging we do is in the arousal phase and guess what? MOST PEOPLE SAY THIS PHASE IS THEIR FAVORITE PART OF SEX!
So why do we continue to downplay this, the longest and most interesting phase of sex? Let's call a spade a spade and recognize that although orgasms can be pleasurable, they are not always available to everyone, every time, and they are...well in comparison to the arousal phase...short!
So how does this reframe change the way you think about your sex life? Does it give you some room to embrace more of what you love and let go of some idea of what "good" sex is? I sure do hope so!
Rooting for you,
Celeste
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