Before you get frustrated with your low libido..

Before you get angry that orgasm takes you a while..

Before you shame the way your body looks during sex..

Remember the earlier version of you who was told her skirt was too short and her body was a problem.

Remember the 15 year old you who was told her body was responsible for men's arousal.

The earlier you who was told that sex was dangerous, would make you unwantable, would send you to hell.

The one who was told sexual pleasure was only for men anyway.

Remember the 8 year old you who wasn't encouraged to explore her body.

Remember the college version of you who didn't know about consent because she was never given sex education.

Remember the 18 year old you who felt ashamed the first time she had sex because her community told her if she did she was a slut.

So before you get frustrated with your libido, remember that it might just be an earlier version of you speaking up and trying to keep you safe.

Love, Celeste

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Jimanekia Eborn is a queer media consultant, sex educator, and sexual trauma expert. Check out her amazing podcast, The Trauma Queen.