Lose "Perfect" and Embrace "Wonderful"
Release the need to get sex right. In a society hyperfocused on correct, perfect and produced, sex can often fall into this trap as well.
Here are some things I hear:
"I want sex to be a total escape - totally free from other thoughts."
"I want her to like and want it as much as I do."
"I want him to give me pleasure and orgasm."
"Sex should be easy if we are in love and both want it, right?"
Listen, I want sex to be wonderful for you. But don't get it twisted...wonderful isn't the same as perfect.
Wonderful is presence, vulnerability, exploration.
Wonderful is silly, curiosity and failure.
Wonderful is attempting novelty. Trying again and getting slightly better. Wonderful is connective.
My friend Sarah said the other day that our anxious brains speak in the binary. That our anxiety makes us think in either/or. Sex is either perfect or terrible. Sex is either successful or unsuccessful based on behaviors like orgasm. But our sexual experiences don't live in a binary. They live in a nuanced place, full of sort of's and cautious discovery.
Perfection is rigid all knowing, but wonderful is...full of wonder!
Rooting for you to make sex wonderful this week.
Celeste
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