I just wanted to drop in with a little reminder:
You are not behind.
You are not too much.
You are not broken.
You are human.

The more I talk with women and reflect on my own life, the more I see how deeply we’ve internalized the idea that pleasure is something we have to earn. After we get married. After the kids are okay. After we stop being “too sensitive” or “too tired” or “too confused.”

But what if pleasure wasn’t the reward?

What if it was the practice?

That’s what I’m writing about in my upcoming book, Missionary Position: A slightly irreverent guide to sex after purity culture. It’s a love letter to your grown-up self—the one who’s ready to feel good in her body, reclaim her voice, and stop apologizing for wanting more.

And if you’re ready to start now (no waiting for the book!), The Pleasure Club is open and oh-so-welcoming. This month we are talking about how to raise kids who can actually talk about sex without cringing. Plus: a group full of smart, hilarious women. Yes please. You don’t have to do this alone.

You never did.