Happy Friday the 13th!
I love this day. Since I was young my mom always told me Friday the 13th was a lucky day for her, and I think I have adopted this. Funny enough, if you are looking for the "lucky" you'll always be able to find it.
I'm feeling lucky today for all of the clients who tell me their most personal thoughts and feelings about sex. I have a front row seat that not many folks get to sit in. I'm particularly grateful for the men who get vulnerable and real. Men who are socialized not to tap into their feelings and are conditioned to think "strong" is the same thing as "silent."
I've been privy to men's desires and wishes and this is what I've learned. I believe one of the biggest disservices we do to ourselves as women is to consider men to be one dimensional, and incapable of growth or change specifically in sex. I see this in my practice when women say, "Well, he's a guy, so you know he just needs sex." Or some version of this statement. Interestingly, I hear this most from women. Women who show up into the practice often to fix a problem that only he is complaining about. When this happens, I'm curious about each of their ability to see him as fully human and capable of change.
Guys are not "just guys" and to think this way limits connection in sex and in a larger sense impedes an eventual righting of power imbalances (read: patriarchy). So this month we are talking about the 5 sex wishes of guys that I hear in the practice. And instead of thinking of men as one dimensional with simple sexual needs that are purely physical, let's begin to think of men as more complex, with sexual desires that are rooted in emotional needs. And once we humanize these desires, we can more often ask men to come to the table with solutions for their own wishes, instead of placing that responsibility on the shoulders of their female partners.
Let's get together and have a candid conversation about the 5 sex wishes of men and how you can work together make them happen.
In this 1.5 hour long workshop, we will discuss the top wishes I hear from men in my practice. But we don't stop there. We will talk about the underlying emotional root of each wish and how to manage it together. Learn how to stop having the arguments about sex and begin connecting physically and emotionally.
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