I'm not a romantic, but I do love LOVE.
I'm not a "hopeless romantic." I think most romantic movies are problematic and I'm far too practical to think someone holding a boom box outside my window is anything less than annoying and sad. I'm a real catch.
However, that doesn't mean I don't love LOVE. I do. And I truly do love people. Strangers, friends, my husband, my parents, my kids. I love people. I believe people, at their core, are good. I love love.
Specifically, I admire messy, not-shiny, ruff and tumble love. The kind of love that stays when conflict is hard. The kind of love that shows up when it is inconvenient. Love that is annoyingly sticky. That is the kind of love that inspires me.
I see my clients show up with messy, tangled, awkward love for each other all the time. And they stay for the hard work of creating more intentional, connective sex life. Even when they come to the table with two different expectations, needs and desires in sex. It takes the weird work of love to help develop a long term sex life that flourishes. And it is inspirational every damn time I see it happen.
So, what is your messy love looking like right now? Celebrate the easy, cheesy boom box moments, sure...but be sure to cheer even louder for the awkward, difficult messy moments too.
You've got this friend. You really do.
I love you.
Celeste
Want to spice sex up or simply get some tasty vanilla ideas?
Don't miss my webinar on Feb 9. (Replays will be sent out!) 10 New Sex Things To Try - just in time for Valentine's weekend. C'mon...I know you are curious!
SPOTLIGHT
I'm so pleased to tell you that one of my very favorite sex educators has started a community for parents and families! Sex Positive Families has launched their new community via Mighty Network and I would highly recommend that you check out all the resources for raising sexually healthy kids.