Sexy is not a look, it’s an experience.
A little over three years ago, I decided to give up any appearance based goals in regards to my exercise or eating. I started to embrace intuitive eating, and worked to repair the conditional relationship I had with my body. (I only really liked her when she was performing well, or looking a certain way.)
Re-examining or repairing your relationship with your body is one of the most influential ways you can make your sex life better. This is because we are taught that “sexy” is a look. We are taught that you must look a certain way in order to enjoy sex. When we only see sex depicted in media, as a performance, and never modeled sex in real life, this influences the way that we feel about our bodies in our own sex lives.
I’d like to invite you to listen to the podcast below, where Tonya, Tracy and I discuss how re-learning your relationship with your body can fundamentally change your sex life for the positive. I’m proud of these two women who have dedicated their podcast to helping you and learn the negative messages you were told about your body.
WE’RE NOT WEIGHTING
This episode addresses the effect purity culture has on our sex lives, our bodies, and our ability to be intimate.
SPOTLIGHT
I'd love to introduce you to Osheta Moore, the author of Dear White Peacemakers. Her book helps us (white folks) unpack white fragility, white privilege, white apathy and white supremacy with the use of four African American spirituals. I’d like to invite you into her work as it both highlights and encourages understanding in dismantling racism where you are.