What's Better Than A Baseball / Sex Analogy?
Hello My Lovelies,
It’s starting to feel more and more like spring in Texas. Well, let’s get real – it’s starting to feel like what most of you would call summer. With the change in season, also brings about one of America’s favorite past times – sex. Jokes. I mean baseball.
Even if you aren’t a baseball fan, bear with me. I think you’ll find some value…
So, have you ever been at a baseball game when your team is way behind? I would consider myself a beginner Ranger’s fan, so this happens a lot to me. It’s the bottom of the ninth, the score is 12 – 2, and you’re wondering if you should sneak out early and get a head start on traffic.
But you decide to stick around, and as you get your mind off the traffic and back into the game, you notice that your team already has a man on first base. And then another player drives that man around to second base, and then third. And pretty soon your team has scored. You’re down by nine, but there’s still hope—the chance to rally.
The crowd is stirred to new life, and those who remain have started to turn their hats inside out and backwards. It’s the RALLY CAP—the universal call for a comeback. The belief that this awkward little sacrifice on your head will bring good luck to the team—and it seems to be working!
As balls fly and men round the bases, your team makes a comeback and wins the game! The crowd goes wild . . .
Let’s bring this back to America’s other favorite past time… sex. Have you ever been lying in bed at the end of the day, eyes closed but mind racing? You’re thinking about the birthday party you need to plan, the clothes you need to fold, the work proposal you need to finish tomorrow, and the entire can of Pringles you just devoured for dinner. And then it happens. You feel a warm hand sliding your direction from across the vast expanse of sheets. Silently, tentatively, the non-verbal question comes to fruition in the form of a thigh squeeze.
Quick . . . fall asleep! Get a headache! Get some cramps! Something!
Sex is the last thing that you want to do this late in the day…but your partner is clearly trying to make his way to at least first base. If one was keeping an arousal score, you would be at zero, and your partner would be at 9.
If sex is something that you may want, but don't feel aroused for in the moment, it may be time to rally!!
Change your thinking and get your head (and your underparts) in the game. Because the funny thing about arousal is that sometimes it doesn’t kick in until after you’ve rounded second (or even third) base (science backs this up, ladies)! So, get out of the dugout, and step up to the plate. If you had a stadium of fans, they would be on their feet cheering you on. RALLY!
“Rally sex” is the sex that you aren’t aroused for at first, but then make a concerted effort to GET aroused for.
Let’s be very clear here: rally sex is not sex that you have and then resent. Rally sex is not sex that you barely make it through–huffing, sighing and rolling your eyes the entire time. Rally sex is not sex with a price. Nor is it sex that you really don’t want to have.
Rally sex is the kind of sex you have because you know it’s important to your partner. To your team. Interestingly, most rally sex ends up being sex that you enjoy, too! Look. When that hand comes sliding over just before you fall asleep, you have three options:
Don’t have sex and get 5 more minutes of sleep. (Actually, make that get 10 minutes LESS sleep because you stay awake feeling guilty or mad.)
Have sex and choose not to enjoy it.
Have sex and choose to enjoy it.
In the end, rally sex becomes a win/win situation - only if you have a positive, willing attitude. If you can’t manage that (and let’s face it, sometimes we just can’t), then politely decline. Don’t do anything you aren’t truly willing to do. This is perfectly admirable too.
Know this. Rally sex is good sex, AND it’s good for your relationship. And why is it so good? In addition to all of the physical benefits that come with regular sex, rally sex promotes your intentionality in your relationship.
So, ladies - turn that cap around and get lucky.
All my love,