Hung like Einstein and Smart as a Horse: The Science of Self-Deprecating Humor

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man smiling smuglyI have a friend who has the best sense of self-deprecating humor.  He is the first person at the party who will help you feel comfortably at ease by cracking a joke about himself.  He also happens to be a wildly successful entrepreneur as well as terrifically kind and generous.  He’s confident enough to be a bit silly and I do believe that this is (at least part of) his secret of success. He takes his business, his friends and his generosity seriously, but not himself.

I admire this skill. It helps others feel both at ease and connected all at once. It is calculated, effective and fun.  But it isn’t easy.

It sounds foolish, I know.  How in the world could cracking self jokes make a difference in your sex life?  It all revolves around taking your relationship seriously, but not yourself.  Sex can be complicated, emotional, dramatic and uncomfortably personal.  But a few well planned self-deprecating quips can make you both feel much more comfortable.  The key is not to slide into self-shaming mode.  (That takes you from confidently funny to insecure.)

If you are nerdy like me, you can learn more about self-deprecating humor from this 2008 journal article in Evolutionary Psychology.

If you are also lazy like me, you can skip the article and learn about self-deprecating humor from Taylor Swift’s music video.

Your challenge this week is to take sex more seriously and take yourself less seriously.  

 

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